RELATIONSHIPS..ughhhh

Hello folks,
   well I  just noticed I didn't post yesterday...hmmm, does that mean I have to start over? Things like that bug me. I hate it when I commit to something and I don't do it with fidelity. But, hey, life tends to intervene.
   So last night I went to the movies with the "Baldwin Sister.' We went to see the strange life of Timothy Green. It was quite touching...I actually shed a few tears in the end. But all in all it was a good movie.
    What I wanted to talk about yesterday is  when to let go of  crazy relationships. I am usually a pretty easy going person. I like just about everyone and I try hard to be a Godly woman and treat people with respect. But in the past year I have had two of the most difficult relationships. I managed to cut one loose....a friend who really wasn't a friend. SHe was judgemental and self centered and had the audacity to call me a fair weather friend because I put my family's needs before her son's graduation party. Never mind that it was an hour away and I hadn't seen her son since he was in 7th grade. Like he was going to notice? I had been having a very difficult week as had my son and we decided we needed family time first. I will admit I didn't call, but I really truly didn't think it was a big deal. I mean there were going to be a bizillion people there. I wouldn't know anyone, and I really don't like big parties. So she got angry and told me I was a fairweather friend..yet I was there when she needed surgery, I was there when she had a big breakup...etc etc. So I decided it was a no brainer..I didn't need negative people in my life. See ya!

    The second relationship is more difficult. It is a work relationship. I don't see this person often, but she leads a group I belong to. Last Spring I challenged some decisions she and some of the members of the group were making. to make a long story shorter, basically she demanded my resignation. When I refused to give it to her she kept making things more and more difficult for me. I thought it was over, but last week it began once again.

   Part of me wants to just quit, I don't need the aggravation and I don't like the negativity. But if I back down I feel as if I am empowering a bully. When do you back down for the serenity of the group and when do you stay, in order to make sure that bullies aren't taking advantage of others? A true delemna. I haven't made my decision yet. I am torn. I welcome input.

    So today was a neat day..kind of in the same vein. For the last two years my relationship with my two sisters has been almost non existant. Some crazy stuff went down and we all said things we probably shouldn't have, or at least I can only speak for myself and I did. In the last few months we have been mending bridges. Life is too short for family to not be there for each other.
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   Well today my nephew and his fiance came into town unexpectedly. I hadn't seen him in about three years. I knew I missed him, but we talked and talked and talked and I realized I really really had missed him and a piece of my heart had been missing. He and his beautiful wonderful fiance, that I just met, stayed for almost 7 hours I think. I was just so happy to spend time with them.

   Life is short. People we love are important to us, and we should never take their love for granted. And people who bully us need prayer. It is mean and unproductive to continue negative relationships. I think my answer is just that...either let the past go and move on..or take separate cars to get to the party!

I love y'all, specially my baby boys and my dear Quino and Kristina....
CIndi

(Kim and Deb...I am so happy I have two beautiful sisters in my life again. You have been greatly missed.)